Guidelines for Parents
1. Never discipline your child when your anger is out of control. It is always wise to take a break and deal with the child after you have calmed down. See the list below for some helpful hints on how to deal with your anger or frustration.
2. Never, ever shake or hit your child in anger. This is especially important in children under 2 years of age.
3. Yelling or screaming at your child is a form of abuse. Rather than telling your child s/he is stupid, worthless or bad, tell them that their misbehavior is bad or disappointing.
4. Never leave a young child unattended. Not even for a moment to answer the telephone or the door.
5. Always know what your child is doing while using a computer. Keep the computer in a public area of the house and frequently check to see what they are viewing.
6. Talk to your children about Internet safety. Explain the dangers of the Internet. Explain why they must never, ever give personal information about themselves, their family and their friends on the Internet. Do this on a regular basis.
7. Always know where your child is, whom they are with, when they are coming home and how to contact them.
8. Always know your child’s friends and try to meet their parents.Be aware of who is supervising the children when they are out playing. If possible work out a schedule with other parents so that you can share the responsibility.
9. Communicate with your child. Often parents are busy and the extent of their communication is to ask about marks, test and school. Take the time to ask about their day, their friends, their activities. Ask in a non-judgmental manner. Ask open-ended questions that allow a child to answer, as they are comfortable.
10. Teach your child that their body is their own. They have a right to say no to any form of touching, no matter how innocent or well intentioned.
11. Teach your child that no means no. Respect your child when s/he says no to a kiss or hug, even if you don’t agree. This reinforces that they have a right to their own body.
12. Teach other adults around your child that if your child says no to any type of contact they too must respect it.
13. Teach them more than once. The more often you repeat things to a child, the more they will learn them.
14. Do not scare your child. Talk about these issues in a straightforward manner but do not attempt to scare them.
15. Teach your child the difference between good touch and bad touch.
16. Teach your child not to keep secrets from you.
17. When your child tells you they don’t want to be with someone, listen to them. In a non-aggressive manner try to find out why.
18. Never tell your child you disbelieve them. They will stop telling you things and some of those things may be important.